Disabled Dating Taboo Words

Sadly, disabled and dating are two words that you rarely see together. This is pretty depressing when you consider exactly how many disabled people there are in the world. For the most part, the concerns over jumping into the world of disabled dating for newly disabled people are too great to even consider it. Sometimes this is a good thing as it means that you are taking the time to come to terms with your own disability. On the other hand, why are you really putting it off?

disability datingHow do you handle it?

A lot of how people handle your disability will be down to how you handle your disability. Who would you rather talk to – the person that was upbeat about what had gone wrong in their life and didn’t let it bother them, or the guy wallowing in self pity not talking to people because he can’t get to grips with what has happened to him? Think about it – who would you rather be? Who do you think people would rather talk to?

How’s your self-esteem looking?

If your self-esteem is too low to join a disabled dating site, or to even think about dating, you’ll need to work on that first. Perhaps you should join some sort of support group to meet other people that are in the same boat as you? This is the best way to learn new tricks and tips on how to deal with your disability and the more sociable you are, the higher the chance of meeting someone that you click with. How can you expect to meet ‘the one’ when you can’t find the energy to get off the couch? The internet can only help you so far…

If you believe yourself to be inferior to other people, other people will see you as just that. If you believe yourself to be an equal to other people, once again, they will see you as just that. If only you knew how much of a difference your own opinion of yourself would make to other people’s first impressions of you. How different do you think you would act?

How do you deal with rejection?

Being rejected is the biggest concern for so many people, especially those looking at disability dating for the first time. The problem with this train of thought is that EVERYONE feels like that. Even able-bodied people get rejected! Don’t automatically think that the really hot able-bodied person you are talking to will reject you once they find out you are disabled. The very best people out there won’t care, and it’s these very best people that you should be aiming for. What’s the point in settling for anything less than awesome?

Making the first move is impossible when don’t feel great about yourself so one tip you should bear in mind is that people won’t be able to message you if you aren’t on the dating website. You might not be able to make the first move but that doesn’t mean that other people won’t make the first move for you. Whether its disabled dating sites or not, you won’t get anywhere until you make that first move. The perfect person out there for you could be on that very website right now. You won’t know until you try, so what the hell are you waiting for?