About Me

As a disabled woman I can honestly say that I’ve had my fair share of dating horrors. To be honest, I’d had my fair share of dating horror stories before I had the accident that left me disabled but I guess that’s the case with most young men and women out there, right? 😉

I’m a 20-something disabled person that has successfully managed to find love but even so, that special someone didn’t come easy for me. I had gone on all the bad blind dates in the world, all the bad first dates in the world, and I’ve been through some of the weirdest and nastiest breakups too. I guess you could say that my love life hasn’t been that dissimilar to other girls my age, and the fact that I am disabled doesn’t even impact that fact.

Of course, being ‘newly’ disabled, my limitations were something I felt that I needed to get used to before I dipped my toe into the big dating pond for the first time. I was single when I had the accident, and had been for some time, so being on my own was something I had gotten relatively used to. The truth of the matter, however, is this – life sure is a lot easier when you have someone around you that you can depend on rely on and thankfully, with the help of the internet, my friend and a couple of well-sent messages on a dating website, I found the man of my dreams. It took a while but I finally got there. And so can you too.

Think about what it is you want from a partner. Clearly they’ll need whatever substance is needed to support you and your disability, but what else is that you are looking for on top of this? See, that’s the thing with disabled dating – people assume that their disability is going to be the ‘be all and end all’ of everything. I certainly did. It took a few bad dates and kissing a few frogs but it’s all entertainment at the end of the day! And eventually, I learned that people didn’t always see what was ‘wrong’ with me; they saw the ‘real’ me if I gave them the chance to get that close.

Honestly and truthfully, disabled dating isn’t that different from able-bodied dating. To some extent, having that limitation may even work in your favour. It sounds mental but it’s true and if you’d just open your eyes, you’d soon see.

I don’t want to patronise you or tell you the old cliches like ‘There is a light at the end of the tunnel’ and ‘You’ll find the right guy eventually’, but to be honest with you; those old cliches are true. If you don’t give up on love or yourself, you’ll find what you’re looking for. Just remember that even able-bodied people give up on love in another break-up induced temper tantrum too. It’s not just you and I that go through it.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that even when you feel at your lowest, there will still be someone out there that will love you for you, regardless of what’s going on with you or your body. You just need someone to pick you up and kick you in the backside and hopefully, that’s exactly what I can do for you!