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The Disabled Dating Club How To Get In Do It Successfully

If you are sick of not dating simply because you are disabled, its time to change the way your mind thinks about things. Just because you are disabled in some way doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t enjoy all the delights that dating has to offer. From frivolous and flirty nights out to long and meaningful relationships, you can have successful disabled relationships. You just need a bit of a helping hand form time to time.

If you’re disabled and considering dipping your feet into the dating world for the first time, you need to have the right mindset for it. You should head into the adventure with an open mind and always be upfront about your disability from the start. For example, if you are in a wheelchair most of the time, there is nothing wrong with having your profile picture as you in your wheelchair. That’s a good representation of you, and if often gets that awkward bit out the way from the very beginning. We all know how awkward those first dates have been – “Oh… you’re disabled?”

You should accept yourself and your disability before you expect other people to accept it and you. You are disabled. Don’t hide it. Don’t run from it. Own it. If you are confident and happy, it doesn’t matter what your disability is, people will love you for who you are. You’ll soon see. I found happiness. I’m disabled. If I can do it, and I was the unluckiest in love person EVER, you can. That’s all I’m saying.

At the same time, don’t expect your disability to be the focus of every conversation. Not everyone is as worried as you are about the fact that you are in a wheelchair or have some sort of disability. Believe it or not, there are even disabled dating sites for you to make use of so that you can find people with the same mind frame that you have. You need to be able to understand that people aren’t interested in you because of your limitations… they are interested in you for you.

Humour, as we have mentioned before, is a great ice breaker, so if you can have a “sense of humour” you will find that life is a lot easier for you. Learn to have a laugh and not take life too seriously and people will be charmed by your wit and SOH. Laughing is often a way to make people feel more comfortable and learning to use this in the right way will definitely help you out in the long run.

If you’re having a bad day, don’t sign on to the dating site. Make yourself a cup of tea, have a bath and enjoy some relaxation time first. If you are in a bad mood, it will be portrayed to the people you are talking to, and you should always try to stay positive. If you are having a bad day and are in a bad mood, your potential new love interests will be on the end of it. You’ll be pushing people away before you’ve even started to lure them in. What’s the point in that?

At the end of the day, disabled dating is what you make of it. If you go into the adventure with a negative attitude, believing that people won’t be interest because you have a disability of some sorts, you are going to get that sort of negative attention. Go out there and put your own positive spin on things and life will much happier for you!

The first and original disabled dating club is DisabledDatingClub.com. Since then they have have set up specialist versions in UK, USA and recently Australia and Europe.

Disabled Dating Taboo Words

Sadly, disabled and dating are two words that you rarely see together. This is pretty depressing when you consider exactly how many disabled people there are in the world. For the most part, the concerns over jumping into the world of disabled dating for newly disabled people are too great to even consider it. Sometimes this is a good thing as it means that you are taking the time to come to terms with your own disability. On the other hand, why are you really putting it off?

disability datingHow do you handle it?

A lot of how people handle your disability will be down to how you handle your disability. Who would you rather talk to – the person that was upbeat about what had gone wrong in their life and didn’t let it bother them, or the guy wallowing in self pity not talking to people because he can’t get to grips with what has happened to him? Think about it – who would you rather be? Who do you think people would rather talk to?

How’s your self-esteem looking?

If your self-esteem is too low to join a disabled dating site, or to even think about dating, you’ll need to work on that first. Perhaps you should join some sort of support group to meet other people that are in the same boat as you? This is the best way to learn new tricks and tips on how to deal with your disability and the more sociable you are, the higher the chance of meeting someone that you click with. How can you expect to meet ‘the one’ when you can’t find the energy to get off the couch? The internet can only help you so far…

If you believe yourself to be inferior to other people, other people will see you as just that. If you believe yourself to be an equal to other people, once again, they will see you as just that. If only you knew how much of a difference your own opinion of yourself would make to other people’s first impressions of you. How different do you think you would act?

How do you deal with rejection?

Being rejected is the biggest concern for so many people, especially those looking at disability dating for the first time. The problem with this train of thought is that EVERYONE feels like that. Even able-bodied people get rejected! Don’t automatically think that the really hot able-bodied person you are talking to will reject you once they find out you are disabled. The very best people out there won’t care, and it’s these very best people that you should be aiming for. What’s the point in settling for anything less than awesome?

Making the first move is impossible when don’t feel great about yourself so one tip you should bear in mind is that people won’t be able to message you if you aren’t on the dating website. You might not be able to make the first move but that doesn’t mean that other people won’t make the first move for you. Whether its disabled dating sites or not, you won’t get anywhere until you make that first move. The perfect person out there for you could be on that very website right now. You won’t know until you try, so what the hell are you waiting for?